Why we can't move on?

Let's face we've all at some point in our lives -whether you're 16 or 60- fallen in love with someone so hard that it seemed impossible for us to move on, forget that person, stop having feelings for them, stop wanting or loving them and overall get completely over them. It may has happened to you just once, maybe twice or this may be happening to you every single time you fall in love with someone new. For me it has so far happened twice but I'm way too young to know love -only 18- although I feel the need to share my feelings & opinion on such an important and widely known subject such as the disability to move on aka get over someone.

Whether it was "love at the first sight" or "why do I even like you?!" type of crush the result is one: you can't stop having feelings for them or forget about them or you call it. It's not really what exactly you feel and shouldn't be feeling it's why you feel like that, why you can't seem to stop feeling like that even if you try to, why you can't control your mind, your heart or your body. Each and every person has a different point of view cause each one of us is feeling something different & has another story but it's really kinda the same, don't you think?!

I personally believe the no1 reason why people can't get over their crush is the feeling of hope that they'll eventually get back together. Hope is one of the strongest feelings a person can have. Hope can save lives or lead someone to doing the most dangerous thing they could ever think of. Hope is what really keeps us alive, it makes us brave, confident & strong. It could be our leader in life but it's an uncertain thing, so is it really that safe to be holding onto that forever? Obviously there are many couples who broke up & then got back together or childhood crushes that ended up to becoming husbands/wives. But for how long can we really hope for things to change? For our desired one to like us back or love us again? Can a crush really be forgotten forever? Can we actually get over a serious crush for good? And most importantly is it ever possible for someone to stop loving a person who meant the absolute everything to them...?

Seeing them all the time or talking to them is another reason why we can't move forward with our lives. For instance if they're a co-worker or a classmate or even a neighbour and you get to see them often it is extremely hard for you to stop thinking about them especially if you have to talk to them either cause you gotta be polite or because it is part of your job. If they were an ex and you've decided to keep in touch or stay friends then I believe it is impossible. You need to cut off if you wanna move on or try to talk to other people you like or meet new people.

Another main reason why we hold on to what we're feeling about that special one is because they show us that they still care, are into us, like or love us. It's their behavior or how we think they act. For example I fall back in love with a certain guy every single time I see him staring at me, he has blue eyes and the way he looks at me gets me weak in my knees, I keep thinking he may still be into me and this is an ever-ending circle that only harms me and my heart. Also them talking to you or interacting with you in general may give you wrong signs & make you believe there's -still- a chance. 

Lastly if you've gone back and forth with that person then you'll most certainly find it very tough to move on because you know you'll at some point probably get back together, but how healthy is that for your life and your soul? 

I feel like there's so much more I could write but I really can't find more words so that'll be it for now, I might update it later if I do, I'll let you all know. 

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Athina, xox.❤️