I Fell in Love with my Best Friend...
Falling in love
with your best friend feels like the most magical and confusing thing at the
same time. It’s pretty scary but can also be very exciting. I personally
believe there can actually be a friendship between a girl and a boy, although
there’s always a thin line between friendly and romantic love that can very
easily be surpassed. Whilst it is very common for someone to fall in love with
their best friend, no one has come up with the perfect “solution” or “way to
deal with it” to this day; since each case is different and the whole ‘friendship’
topic very conflicting. Even if it hasn’t happened to you personally to either
fall for a friend or have a friend fall for you, I bet you’ve at least once in
your life wondered what would happen if you and your bestie ever made out or
had sex or even further were in a relationship.
Okay, let’s say
you’ve fallen for the person who always stands by your side, who always offers
you a shoulder to cry on, who you call sis or bro without even being related to
them, who you love just as much as your actual family, who’s become family to
you, who knows your deepest secrets and most embarrassing truths. What do you
do? Do you risk your friendship by telling them? Do you pretend nothing’s going
on by simply burring it? Can you even do that? Is that even right? Do you force
yourself to fall for someone else just to get over them? Do you run away from
them? Do you run away from it? How could you run away from someone you love;
especially now that the love you feel for them has reach a whole new level?!
Because now you don’t just care for them or want them to be happy, you want
them; you wanna be with them, you wanna be part of them, an even bigger part of
their lives.
I once fell for
my best friend, then got over it, then fell for another guy, then found out
he’d been in love with me since the beginning, but I was over it, he wasn’t
over it yet, we kinda tried, it never worked out, it was too late, I thought
“Damn, I should’ve said something. Damn, he should’ve said something.” No one
did and guess what, now we are j u s t old classmates that were once c l o s e.
So, when is it the right time to confess your feelings? Right away? When you
can no longer be okay with them being with someone else? Once you’re over it?
Never?
Writing this
article made me sick to my stomach; I mean it. It’s just so beautiful and sad
at the same time. It’s beautiful to love someone so much. It’s ideal to be in a
relationship with your best friend, everyone says that; everyone agrees that
your partner in life should also be your best friend. To get that though,
you’ll have to overcome two major fears first: the fear of rejection and the
fear of losing them. It takes balls and guts to confess your feelings to your
best friend. Now, onto the ugly side of it, the other person might not feel the
same away about you or maybe they used to, but are over it (my case). Here are
your options: stay friends (you’ll have to work on yourself and get over it
without that affecting your relationship with them) or separate yourself from
them for a while or forever.
I could go on
talking about this topic for days, it’s so confusing and serious but also fun
–at least, when you’re not involved. I just wanna give you a piece of advice, let them know just do it, it’s risky,
but it’s worth it; after all you supposedly trust this person more than anyone
in your life. Even if you don’t want to straight forward say it, find a more
distinctive way to show them, their reaction will help you understand if they
feel the same way about you. Just remember that you only get one life and quite
possibly one chance when it comes to stuff like this… Let your heart take the
lead and I guarantee you, you won’t get lost.
Yours,
Athina, x
